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Some of the themes I encounter in the therapeutic space 

Reflection

I am broken

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I am not worthy of love

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I am disgusting

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I hate who I am

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I am not interesting enough

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I am an imposter

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I have no friends

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I am not confident like others

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I tend to hide

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I have no empathy

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I have too much empathy

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I am too sensitive

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I will end up alone

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I am ashamed

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I have betrayed others

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I have betrayed myself

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I hate my body

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I am not my body

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I have nobody who really cares

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I lack confidence

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I have something wrong with me

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I am heartbroken

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I am scared something bad will happen

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I don’t want to grow old

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I am more than my disability 

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I feel invisible

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I have lost so much

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Your Story 

The therapeutic process can be described as working with the hurt parts known and unknown. As we develop layers of protection to guard against future harm, these ways of managing may not continue to serve as they once did. 

 

Both conscious and unconscious patterns of thinking and behaving are strong drivers in how relate with ourselves and towards others. This is where therapy can help to better understand the dynamic between the inner and outer worlds.

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We learn how events in your life may have shaped different parts of you. Often this relates to unmet needs in the past which set up patterns of relating in the present. 

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​The complexities of being with others can bring joy and laughter as well as turmoil and confusion. Below you can see some examples of what is often shared in the therapy room when it comes to talking about family, partners, friends etc. 

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​The uniqueness of a therapeutic relationship comes in holding the emotional charge and intensity of all emotions to help facilitate safe exploration. 

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​I work using an integrated approach based on the many varied skills to learn more about how to best support you and meet you where you are at. 

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What will other people say?

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What will my parent(s) say?

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​I don’t want to stay in connection because they hurt me

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They do not want me to live my life

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They guilt trip me into caring for them

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I am not the favourite 

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I feel a duty not love towards them

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They never showed me love

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They expect me to just move on

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They fight and then nothing ever changes

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All difficult emotions/feelings are silenced/ignored/buried

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I don’t know my family story/history

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They don’t know this about me and I wish they did

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I fear they will find this out about me

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The world is not a safe place for people like me

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Nobody cares anyway why bother?

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They will never change their behaviour

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I can never change my behaviour

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Why should I change who I am to fit in?

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I cannot trust myself let alone anyone else

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The Anguish of Connection 

Feel free to contact me to arrange an introductory call

tulsicounselling@gmail.com

07533 658894 

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